Monday, November 08, 2010

The Aftermath

It wasn't that bad, really.

I wish they would've said they'd expel all the bullies right away, but of course, that's not feasible. Nice, yes, but feasible, no.

They (the teacher and the principal) were both very nice and very seemed to really want this behavior to end, not only with the kids Jacob deals with, but with the rest of school. They agreed this type of behavior has escalated in the five years Jacob has been there and the principal has said she has already dealt with many of very similar issues already this year.

You know, that's just sad. Why do you think so many kids are behaving this way? Discuss amongst yourselves. I have an strong opinion on this. I'll share it another time.


This is what the administration has agreed to do for us:

1. Monitor the three main bullies and contact their families to let them know what is and has been going on.

2. If the behaviors continue detentions will be given and suspensions after that if necessary. As per the school handbook, three suspensions will have them expelled. The parents will also be notified of this.

3. There will be a meeting of the school committee to address the lack of a bully policy or even ONE bully rule in the school handbook. Something will be added for the books next year detailing the consequences of such actions (the detentions, suspensions, and then expulsions as mentioned previously).

4. The school will use one of the weekly chapel meetings to address bullying and respect for others. (This was something I REALLY wanted them to do. Right now their chapel time is filled with mission trip slides and many sleeping children).

5. The principal will meet with each recess aide to discuss their technique with dealing with bullying. They will all also attend a training class to teach them how to handle bullies and victims.

I am pleased with how it went. If nothing else, it brings to the principal's attention that this is happening, has been happening, and we don't want it to continue to happen.

Also, the looks on the bully's faces when they saw my husband, the teacher, and I standing outside the principal's door was priceless. I figure just for that they'll be on their best behavior at least tomorrow.

You'd think so anyway.


Fran said...

I hope they will be! And that they will cease to bother your son. School is hard enough to deal with at that age for children without any additional inner issues and adding the bullying on top of it, it's no wonder he feels so much angst. After reading about your summer and the things you have been so open about I have tried to make a special effort with the students I come across who have behavioral/emotional problems at our local schools. I think he is a very lucky young man to have a mom willing to go to bat for him. I hope for the very best for you all.

Jana said...

Great news! I hope things get much better for both him and you.

Crazed Nitwit said...

It's good they're willing to work with you but I'm slightly cynical about the outcome. I'm snotty that way.

Gee perhaps because parents don't instill proper manners and respect for others in their children? Just a guess off the top of my head......

Love ya! Hugs.

ChupieandJ'smama said...

Yay! Glad that they listened and addressed your concerns. Here's hoping that they actually put everything into action.
You gave me hope! I have many issues right now and I'm thinking of looking for a new school. I may have to set up a meeting. Our school has not been this helpful in the past, at least that's been my experience. It seems to go in one ear and out the other. I'm at my wits end and I'm waving the white flag.

Kate said...

Way to go, Mama!

Mommy Daisy said...

I am so glad that it went well. I pray that they follow through with all their plans and things look better for you guys soon.