So he was better yesterday.
But he always is.
He wants his game back, so today, I am expecting stellar behavior. Because we have ridden this ride so long and know this twist so well, I know that most of today will be just fine and then about three he'll use his best manners to ask his dad if he can have that game back and he will oblige but preface it by saying, "I don't want to hear or see anymore of whatever-behavior-got-it-removed-in-the-first-place" and Jacob will say, "Oh, yes sir" and go about his business.
Tomorrow morning, the shit will hit the fan again.
I know you're wondering, why the hell does he have the game at all? Why give it back?
Well, because every class, support group, book, therapist, and psychiatrist says children, especially those with ADD need to work for something in small doses. You cannot expect them to work and work and work and then work some more and the reward never come. Kinda like how adults feel at the end of their two week pay period I guess.
So he has a hand-held game and that's all he wants. Ever. He has it for a day, is without it for a day or sometimes longer, gets it back and we start over again.
I have tried charts, reward systems, checklists, token economies, every single approach in the three books I kept from all those behavior classes in college and while they work spectacularly with the littles, not so much with the big one.
*Interesting fact: I have a masters degree in Special Education with an emphasis in learning disabilities and, what for it, ……….behavior disorders. Graduate Summa Cum Laude too. Way to screw with me universe.
His therapist called last week to say she read a book that described Jacob so well that she wanted us to read it too. It is called Healing ADD by Dr. Daniel Amen. If you watch PBS you can catch him during the money begging segments. According to him there are seven types of ADD based on which part of your brain is deficient. He does brain scans to note activity in the temporal lobe and frontal cortex etc. and diagnoses they type and then has a treatment plan to address those parts of the brain. Jacob, of course, is the worst type. According to Dr. Amen, he has Ring Of Fire ADD which affects many parts of the brain and is very difficult to treat. OF COURSE.
Of all the books I have read on this subject (and there are MANY), I like this one the best because FINALLY Jacob is addressed. THIS is the ADD we see. Oh, how I wish it were as simple as sitting still.
So I am still reading this book. There is a diet to follow. I am slowly taking that on. There is a lot to digest (see what I did there?).
But for today, it is 7:45 and so far no outbursts. I'll take what I can get.
Stay Strong, Mila
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