Tuesday, October 10, 2006

Huh?

Tell me if you find this odd......

Since Jacob had been absent for two days last week and seeing as how he has been through a somewhat traumatic experience, I thought I would walk Jacob into his classroom this morning to speak with his teacher and give her a heads up to what's been going on the past few days. We ended up arriving late due to stinky, eight wipe diaper at the get go, so I was hesitant to go in for fear of disrupting the morning routine. School begins at 8:15 and the nice man has informed us many times through meetings and newsletters to pretty much be the hell out of the building by then. We showed up at 8:25, but I felt it was important to speak with the teacher given the situation so I forged ahead, I mean, shoot, I took a shower and everything. So I very quietly head in that room, ten minutes after start time remember, and find six other mothers just hovering around the room, beaming at their little angels, and just kind of there. I was wondering if I missed some sort of party or what not but still, I approached the teacher's desk and had to wait in line to speak with her as there were three other mothers waiting to speak with her as well. OOOKKKKAAAYYYY........so I can't help but over hear and one mother wants to know what kind of lunch her kid should bring for the field trip this week (you know what your kid likes to eat was teacher's response LOL), another asked if she could help be the room mother (already have one but you are welcome to help, just ask that lady over in the corner), and the next lady just wanted to ask how the teacher was doing and how her weekend went (blank stare). By this time it is well after 8:30, I know the teacher is wondering what gem I have to share, but she was genuinely concerned about Jacob and my mom and glad I let her know what was going on, we spoke about two minutes and I turned around and left. I didn't even wave good bye to my kid as he was already engrossed in some writing practice and really didn't seem to notice that I was there at all. I was the first mother to leave. Yes, I left after 8:30 and there were still about ten mothers there and another one walking in the door as I was leaving. What the hell is up with that? Now, I am clingy mother......my kids have never stayed with a babysitter, I watch their every move like a hawk, and I monitor everything they eat, drink, watch, or read. I fully expected to want to walk Jacob in daily as well, but I knew that wasn't good for him. In fact, he is so independent he has been dropped off and cheerfully going in alone since day two. It has never even occured to me that I should sit beside him for half an hour each morning and pat his hand and get his bag unpacked for him, yet I am apparently the only mother who thinks that way. I noticed when I went to chapel that the other mothers seemed to know one another real well and I wondered how that came about and now I see. They have a little coffee klatch right there in the classroom each morning.....very, very weird. I thought it might be an isolated incident, but the same thing happened yesterday morning when I walked in and found a substitute there.

Do you think I should say something about this? The teacher is wonderful and Jacob loves her so I don't want to tick her off, but I kind of get the impression that them being there is a bit of a nuisance to her. I kind of feel that this is an intrusion into my child's educational day and since I am paying for it I should say something, but I don't want to be the bitchy, gripy woman. Am I making too much out of this?

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

I would talk to the teacher about it and see what in the world is going on. That is just way to disruptive for the kids. I don't blame you for being angry!

Beck said...

I don't know if the teacher finds it disruptive or not - at my four-year-olds class, mothers often stay for the first while to help all the kids get their lunches unpacked, shoes on and jackets put away and the teacher is grateful. Also, some kids in his class are having trouble separating from their mothers, so the mothers stay for the first little while and then slip away. It depends on the class, eh?

Amie said...

I think if the teacher finds it distruptive, it falls on her to put an end to it. I know one school where lots of my friends send their children had a policy where parents could stay and help in the classroom. It does sound like they waste a lot of her time though.

So sorry about your mom, praying for a smooth recovery.

Sadie said...

I'm not a mom so...

But I wonder if the teacher might be afraid to say something to put a stop to it. Your kids go to private school, don't they? She might be concerned about ticking off those moms who pay tuition and therefore her salary. I dunno.

But if I were the teacher I think it would bug me.

Michelle said...

It does seem kind of odd that they are staying so much longer after class "starts" to just "chit chat" with the teacher...especially one asking how the teacher's weekend went. It's nice of her to want to be friendly with the teacher and seem interested, but I don't think that was the time. Does this teacher do any kind of "communication notebooks" that get sent home with the child? If so that's where the parents could ask questions back and forth such as what to bring for lunch for the field trip!

Lynsey said...

Definitely say something...I just got a job working in an elementary school and it can be very intrusive to everyone, teachers and kids alike, when the parents are huddled around chatting over coffee. Tell them to take it to Starbucks.

Lori said...

Ummm...I would have to agree with you. That is just weird. I would probably try to find a way to discuss it with the teacher. It seems like it would be very intrusive. How the heck can the teacher focus on teaching the kids when the mothers are trying to talk to her?? You had a valid reason to seek her out, but c'mon...what to bring my kid for lunch?? Give me a break! It sounds like a bunch of ass-kissers to me...hehe! Sorry! Strange....let us know what happens!